Originally Posted by Anonymous
Totally agree - only share specific info if it will be helpful to someone else. Otherwise best to keep the details to yourself. Everyone will be working through their own process. Every kid is different and although everyone thinks they know where they stand in comparison to their teammates, recruiting can completely change everything and really mess with the player’s and parent’s perception. Everyone just needs to be true to themselves and find the match that best suits ALL the things they are looking for in a college - academics, size, location, coach, team culture, etc… Lots of very important things to consider. If your daughter stays true to who they are and what they are looking for, they should find their perfect match. For anyone who has had a child go through Greek recruitment at a southern university, recruitment is very similar but times 100!! Not for the weary!

What a great analogy - the Greek Life at Southern schools! I say take the Southern Gentility a bit farther and keep all but pertinent info to yourselves. We've had convos about coaches who only take middies and turn them into defense or attack. That talk is fine.

Speaking of coaches and what they like- does anyone have any insights on any schools or coaches? Not to name names, but to lessen the pain when you don't get the school you want? For instance my neighbor said he didn't push his daughter onto certain schools because she wasn't the right height for that school. Anyone else have any insightful stories? I don't want my daughter to go barking up the wrong tree.[/quote]

“push his daughter onto certain schools” … don’t listen to anything that your neighbor says, he is a fool.

Have your daughter continue to play, have your daughter email all of the coaches at the schools that she is interested in (make the list larger than you think) , ask both your club director and your HS coach to reach out to the schools on her list, ask anyone else who knows the coaches on her list to reach out to the coaches. Make sure to talk with any coaches who do reach out even if your daughter does not think she would like to attend the school. Continue to express interest in schools even if the interest is not mutual because things can and do change.

BTW, I’m still laughing at the “not the right height” comment.

To clarify, when I say “ask anyone else who knows the coaches on her list to reach out” make sure you ask them to just ask the coach to take a look at her…. You do not want someone who is overbearing, your just trying to have the coaches watch her play.

The coaches watch kids play and they do their own evaluation and make their own decisions, nobody pushes any players on coaches especially on coaches at the stronger programs.