Totally agree - only share specific info if it will be helpful to someone else. Otherwise best to keep the details to yourself. Everyone will be working through their own process. Every kid is different and although everyone thinks they know where they stand in comparison to their teammates, recruiting can completely change everything and really mess with the player’s and parent’s perception. Everyone just needs to be true to themselves and find the match that best suits ALL the things they are looking for in a college - academics, size, location, coach, team culture, etc… Lots of very important things to consider. If your daughter stays true to who they are and what they are looking for, they should find their perfect match. For anyone who has had a child go through Greek recruitment at a southern university, recruitment is very similar but times 100!! Not for the weary!
What a great analogy - the Greek Life at Southern schools! I say take the Southern Gentility a bit farther and keep all but pertinent info to yourselves. We've had convos about coaches who only take middies and turn them into defense or attack. That talk is fine.
Speaking of coaches and what they like- does anyone have any insights on any schools or coaches? Not to name names, but to lessen the pain when you don't get the school you want? For instance my neighbor said he didn't push his daughter onto certain schools because she wasn't the right height for that school. Anyone else have any insightful stories? I don't want my daughter to go barking up the wrong tree.[/quote]
Not sure if you are being serious or sarcastic .... In any event, many parents make up all kinds of things about coaches / programs / schools and why their daughter was not offered a spot. It will never be that the coaches didn't think their daughter was as good as the players that the coach offered spots to. No, it's always some crazy excuse, i.e. "they only like tall players", "they already took a girl from her High School", "her club director didn't help", "they took a girl who's dad is connected", "her HS coach blew it", "it's very political", "they took the other player because they have money" etc....
The reality is that coaches know what they are looking for and they know what they like. The Top 10 - 20 Programs are able to be much more selective when it comes to making offers, these schools are a diverse group and the top recruits can usually find a good fit at one of the top programs. For the most part the top programs get the top recruits year after year. When a player does not receive offers from the top programs (or the school that their daughter wants to go to) the parents (the ones that are delusional) make up excuses as to why their daughter was not offered a spot. It is very rare for a top tier player to not receive any offers from any of the top 10 -15 programs.
The recruiting process can be tough for everyone but it is especially tough for those parents with an overinflated view of their daughters ability.
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