a good player and a good teammate will find the right balance and he has to be a little selfish, IMHO When a kid is not committed he has to be at all the top tournaments, camps and prospect days and sometimes that is at the expense of his HS team, once committed a kid needs to still play and practice against the best players he can but now that he is committed he can pick the HS team even at lesser events when there is a conflict. I have been through this a few times and there is no correct formula, you have to do what is right for yourself. While my son was fortunate to play on a competitive travel team and was invited to top showcase camps if we had it to do all over again we would not go to the showcases and instead go to as many prospect days as possible, all the schools that are a good fit and the ones that have multiple coaches from multiple colleges attending and coaching. the [prospect camp was the best bang for the buck and most exposure.