Terps dad here. I think that 91 team (not extreme) is a true A team and can play with everyone and hold their own even if they are the second team in that 91 organization.
Further, terps are sending individual players to the philly fresh showcase but not attendign team day. Instead we are headed to MD to play crabs and those MD team in some small invitational event...
If your kid is on that second team, IMO you are doing ok and will get noticed at various other events. colleges go to more that just the top three in my experience.
