Lots of girls play side tournaments outside of their main organizations. My daughter plays for YJ and not only plays some extra tournaments with them, but also with friends who play for TG. Its nice they ask even though she's not part of the same organization.

No travel situation is going to be perfect. I find they've been great to meet a lot of people who love the sport that become part of your network. Ignore the BS and take advantage of opportunities in YJ or TG - and outside of them - to play the game.