One of the many great thing about travel lacrosse is that it prepares boys for high school and college sports, which in turn prepare them for real life. Look at the holdback debate this way. Families who are successful, rich, and well connected find a way to make the system work in their favor. Those who do not fall into those categories can take one of two paths - figure out a way to thrive and be happy within the system, or complain endlessly how the successful, rich, and well connected get their way. That is travel lacrosse, and that is real life, whether you like it or not.
summary. This may be applicable when the boys are young men, in HS, etc. but to teach your son you have to cheat in the youth level to get ahead makes you a POS. Nothing like watching Mortimore & Randolph's 15yr old thump on 13yr old's.
It's actually a very true and accurate summary. Lacrosse is not a meritocracy, and neither are most things in life.
My son lost his spot on a national team to a double holdback and a single holdback, both from out of state. I mean oh well? Now....how it was handled was embarrassing on the club's part. But the decision was fine, and my kid gets it too.
What it means to the kids who are heldback? My son's experience with them is that they feel pretty embarrassed by it except when they are out on the field, being awesome. The decision was made by their parents. The parents usually are evasive about it as well. They know it's a [Censored] move. Their kids know too. How is that different than any other type of entitled parenting, like legacy admissions to college, getting a $60K job at your parents' business the day you graduate college, having someone else pay your college tuition, etc?
When is it going to be fair? Never.
You lost credibility when you said lost a spot on a national team to an out of state kid.
There are no out of state kids on national teams.
You just feel entitled to a spot for some reason. You are as big a part of the problem with lacrosse as anyone. Entitled parents raising entitled kids crying when they don’t get their way.
Your reading comprehension skills are...Chesapeake HS vintage, maybe 1995?
Nobody's entitled to anything. Certainly not a spot on any competitive team at work, school or sports. Which my post made clear. And the fact is that most people who clamor for "MeRiToCrAcY" started on 3rd base anyway.
Cmon CHS Cougars, three roars for reading riting and recidivism!!! raawwwwwr
Honest yes or no:
Was your son better than the two players you say “took his spot?”
He was not, which, for the 4th? time? I say "nobody's entitled to anything." Kid made another national roster a month later. And plays up a year freelancing for other clubs, in addition to his regular club. Pretty sure he'll be OK.
I'll try to dense it down to Baltimore Sun readership (4th grade equivalent) since clearly that is what's required for you:
15 year old more bigger than 13 year old. Make 13 year old look small and slow. No call back Not fair but not break rules. Life go on. Oh well.
It’s obvious what team you are talking about. And what team you son got cut from. I know the families and no one is 15.
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