Don't let the kool aid drinkers get you down. If your daughter can play she will always find a spot even in college. Our HS has had girls play in college without EVER playing club although they were beasts athletically.

"A" level clubs have the most contacts and get the most looks from college coaches but even if you join a B level club, those clubs always get their top players recruited. Maybe not the bottom of the roster, but the top girls from all these programs seem to make it work they just have to work a little harder to get seen and contacting college coaches. Good luck!