You really are a giant loser , we get it you think your kid is a superstar because they committed early. Good for her but if you do not feel the system is broken and in need of some help you are delusional and are also at odds with about 90 percent of college coaches. My kids are done and the recruiting process was too early for them and has gotten even more so now. I can tell you the early commits were and are not always the best players , some just knew where they wanted to go and got an offer and jumped at it. Talk to a kids teammates about them committing early and you generally get an honest assessment as in "that's crazy what was that school thinking ", or "that makes sense she is a stud".Many of the top kids take a little extra time because they receive many offers and the coaches generally are willing to wait a little longer for a decision. Bashing people because they think having 13-14 year olds make such big decisions is too soon by saying its jealousy just shows you realize maybe your kid is not a top player despite committing early.Again the kids on the team know who the actual top players are so stop fooloing yourself.
Another hater with the name calling.
If the kid is being recruited by Maryland, North Carolina and Duke I think it is safe to say that it is not the parent who thinks the player is a superstar.
If 90% of the college coaches are against it then tell them to stop doing it.
It is the Top Schools that are the most engaged in the early recruiting process. Those schools do not recruit middle of the road players, if they did they would not remain at the top for very long.
Shame on you for allowing your kids to commit too early. Why didn't you have them wait? When is the right time? If Duke, Notre Dame, Northwestern, Boston College, Georgetown, Princeton, Penn, Virginia, Hopkins and Maryland come calling why should you wait? I think reasonable rational people can make an informed choice. If something changes down the road they can revisit their decision.
I think he/she is bashing people because some people are jealous and bitter and it is displayed on this site, on the sidelines and around town. I think that he/she is calling some people out because (like you) some people think that they know what is best for everyone. If you do not think that the coaches from the Top 10-20 programs in the country can identify talent you may be the one who is delusional. Maybe the coaches should let the kids or better yet the parents do the recruiting.
Every situation is different, live and let live. Worry about your own kid.
The college coaches can stop it any time they want. They don't stop it because they all go after the same kids. The top coaches spot the top players and then they race to recruit them. In my experience it is parents of kids who are not being recruited by the top schools who have the biggest problem with it.
You may also be delusional if: you do not think there is a tremendous amount of jealousy and bitterness harbored by some who believe their daughter is getting overlooked by certain schools.
First off you are calling people jealous etc. then call someone a hater for name calling, I get that you are not very bright but even a simpleton like you must see how silly that makes you seem. You go on to name Duke and yet they are leading the charge against the early recruiting so again its obvious you are ignorant.
Obviously your kid committed early and you are desperate for people to believe that makes her one of the top players in the country when in reality you know people are baffled and laughing at the school for taking her . Sorry it makes you so insecure . If you think 13-14 year olds are emotionally and intellectually old enough to make such decision about their future you are just wrong. These kids are committing prior to completing a semester of high school or taking their SATs but you feel their lacrosse ability at 13 is enough to judge where they should get an education, yeah that sounds reasonable.
I think you are responding to a couple of different people.
Pointing out that someone is jealous or that they are spewing hate on this site or on the sideline is not name calling. It is pointing out a fact.
Duke has been recruiting (watching, evaluating and identifying talent) 9th graders for years. They have not verbally committed any 9th graders as far as I know but they have been out there along with all of the other top programs scoping out players. Colleges coaches have been talking to the top 9th grade prospects at their camps for years, they never had this "public verbal commitment" agreement but many times there was a wink and a nod.
I agree 9th grade is a bit early for most but it should not be my business what others choose to do. If a college coach and a 9th grade player along with her parents want to come to an agreement that is their business. We do not need the NCAA establishing any more rules. Nobody is forcing the coaches to recruit early and nobody is forcing kids to commit early.
As you and others have found out, it is not the opinion of the parent that matters. It is the opinion of the college coaches that matters. When schools like Maryland, UNC, Duke and Virginia recruit a player she is probably pretty damn good. The disbelieving parents of the kids who do not get recruited by the top schools can scratch their heads and laugh all they want. It will not make the top schools recruit their daughter. After the top recruits are committed schools will look to fill slots with the next level player. At the top academic schools coaches will look to fill remaining spots with girls who have exceptionally high GPA's and test scores. The top recruits are given more latitude academically.
I don't think that a 13 or 14 year old should be making this type of decision on their own. Nor do I think a 16 or 17 year old should make the decision on their own. However when offers are coming in from the top "academic" universities in the country I do think that parents can guide their child and make a sound decision. Remember, it is up to the family, nobody is forced to commit and if the school does not want to engage in early recruiting they do not have to.
The reality is that only a small percentage of girls will verbally commit in the 9th grade.
I have listened to many parents on the sideline and read much of the banter on this site. There is a lot of jealousy and venom spewed. I think early recruiting is a reality check for some parents. Maybe their daughter plays on a top club team, maybe she was brought up to Varsity in 8th or 9th grade. Maybe they think that she is the best kid out there. College coaches don't care about any of that. Coaches know what they like when they see it and when they see it they recruit it.
Unrealistic parents have a tough time when the college coaches recruit other players and not their daughter. Thats when the fangs come out.
- She will never play there.
- She will get a degree in basket weaving.
- I don't get, she is not that good.
- My daughter is going D3, she is focusing on academics.
- 45 girls on the roster, good luck.
- I would never allow my daughter to commit so early.
- It's stupid. It's foolish, It's crazy.
It's a decision that the player, parents and coaches make together. It's their decision not ours. If 90% of the coaches do not want to engage in the practice of early recruiting they should simply stop doing it. If a student and the parents do not want to commit early they do not have to.
Push the timeframe back all you want it will not change the underlying tone of jealousy and bitterness from the parents who think their daughter is better than the college coaches thinks she is. If you do not believe that there is a tremendous amount of negative sentiment directed at some of the girls you are not in tune with reality.
The high and mighty big picture view and "I know better attitude" has a socialist tint to it. You know what is best for all the players, parents, coaches and universities. You are so unselfish, you only want what is best for the sport and for all of the kids. How could anyone possibly make a good decision by themselves on their on timetable. How could someone possibly have a different view than from me?
According to some, coaches can't identify talent. Parents are not capable of thinking past the next tournament. It is not possible for a 9th grader with council from her parents to make a sound decision.
If pushing the recruiting timetable back will also delay the jealousy then I am all for it.
