Camps, clinics and prospect days etc are by far the best way to do this, although potentially expensive depending on target schools. The only caveat being to make sure that the schools are good matches abilitywise.
I have a question. For your daughters, would u choose the "best" academic school she could get to thru lax, a combo where school is very good and lax is top ten, or go for the ring at a decent but not top top academic school. To put names on them (and they r all great so I'm not putting a judgement on it) let's say she could go to Harvard/Yale or somewhere like Northwestern or somewhere like Syracuse. What do u choose. All great options but each different experience. Thoughts?
Stanford
Only at Ivies do the girls actually get the education promised. Stanford = Northwestern not Yale/Harvard/Princeton. Basket weaving is basket weaving whether it's at Stanford, Northwestern or anywhere else.
Although basket weaving in California is probably nicer than basket weaving in Evanston.
A four year degree is still a four year degree.
yup. but they r not all created equally, even within a great school. And after ur first job, ur undergrad school name means very little. Basket weaving at Stanford is not as good a degree as say engineering at Michigan. Of course Mommy and daddy don't get to brag that their little suzie went to Stanford, but little suzie might have a better career.
LOL. Do you think that most of these parents are looking that far ahead? Career? Yeah. Sure. Laughing.
It is really a simple thought process, we have worked with our children their entire lives. Do your best. Work hard in school so that you will have an opportunity to go to a good college. Work hard in college so that you can get the best job possible in your chosen field. Choose to go to graduate school if you feel that it will help advance your career.
We have taught our children that working hard will give them advantages. One of the advantages is having options. Having the ability to choose your path is a great thing.
Having the option of choosing the University that you would like to attend is a great situation for a high school student to be in. If the student has worked hard in the classroom and on the field and they have been blessed with exceptional athleticism they may be in that situation.
To allow your jealousy to shine through is really quite sad. I hope that you do not permit your petty bitterness to infect your daughter.
Some parents do think far in advance. To the best of their ability they help guide their children. They gather as much information as possible and they due their due diligence during the recruiting process. There is never a "right time" and you will never "know" what the future holds. However when given several great options I think that most 9th and 10th graders in conjunction with their parents can select a school that will be a great fit.
I am sorry that most of the jealous bitter parents and their daughters will not be in such a position. It is unfortunate that "some" of you become jealous and bitter. It is a shame that you try to tear down girls who have worked so hard and have been offered great opportunities. Some of you appear to spend a lot of time worrying about what other people are doing. Stop wishing your ill will upon 9th and 10th grade girls who commit to great schools and go have a catch with your daughter.
One last thing, most of the jealous haters will never get it. You will never understand or "accept" the way this works. You will never be in the position that the top players are in. Parents and kids do not rush to commit, they do not call the coach and say they want to commit. College coaches Identify and then pursue "recruit" and "make offers" to the best players. The best players are recruited by just about all of the top schools. The best players are "offered" spots and scholarships to multiple schools. Most of the Top Lacrosse Schools are also excellent academic institutions. The top players will have the most options. The jealous bitter haters will continue to chase their tail and call the kid who commit early foolish. All the while they will be running around trying to find a fit for their daughter and once they do they will proceed to tell you why XYZ is better school than Duke, Penn, North Carolina or Maryland.
