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This guy doesn’t get it. Yes we all know cheating, excuse me holding back your kid in school helps them in sports. You are playing against younger smaller kids. We all know the kids who are holding back in this grade. For the most part they are seeing others pass them by in size, speed and talent in some cases. They have decided to holdback rather than just go to college and be a lower division athlete or heaven forbid just a student!! What you are not understanding is we think you are nuts. No one cares what the UVA holdbacks do. In ahe kids aren’t comparing themselves to them because many kids right now could be in that top D1 category if they reclassed but won’t reclass. Either the kid, parent or both don’t want to do that. They think it’s ethically wrong or sends wrong message to their kid.
If you are ok with it which you obviously are then go do it. Buyer beware though, the kids their real age give them no credit for playing down no matter what they accomplish, neither do the parents. You don’t seem like a guy that cares what people think, maybe your kid has thick skin too because chances are he will need it.

This guy doesn’t get it. Yes we all know cheating, excuse me holding back your kid in school helps them in sports. You are playing against younger smaller kids. We all know the kids who are holding back in this grade. For the most part they are seeing others pass them by in size, speed and talent in some cases. They have decided to holdback rather than just go to college and be a lower division athlete or heaven forbid just a student!! What you are not understanding is we think you are nuts. No one cares what the UVA holdbacks do. In ahe kids aren’t comparing themselves to them because many kids right now could be in that top D1 category if they reclassed but won’t reclass. Either the kid, parent or both don’t want to do that. They think it’s ethically wrong or sends wrong message to their kid.
If you are ok with it which you obviously are then go do it. Buyer beware though, the kids their real age give them no credit for playing down no matter what they accomplish, neither do the parents. You don’t seem like a guy that cares what people think, maybe your kid has thick skin too because chances are he will need it.

This guy doesn’t get it. Yes we all know cheating, excuse me holding back your kid in school helps them in sports. You are playing against younger smaller kids. We all know the kids who are holding back in this grade. For the most part they are seeing others pass them by in size, speed and talent in some cases. They have decided to holdback rather than just go to college and be a lower division athlete or heaven forbid just a student!! What you are not understanding is we think you are nuts. No one cares what the UVA holdbacks do. In ahe kids aren’t comparing themselves to them because many kids right now could be in that top D1 category if they reclassed but won’t reclass. Either the kid, parent or both don’t want to do that. They think it’s ethically wrong or sends wrong message to their kid.
If you are ok with it which you obviously are then go do it. Buyer beware though, the kids their real age give them no credit for playing down no matter what they accomplish, neither do the parents. You don’t seem like a guy that cares what people think, maybe your kid has thick skin too because chances are he will need it.

Word salad...Holding your child backs works, Reclassing works, PG works, Red shirting works... There is a reason that most players are one of these. Time to live in the real world, not the dream world.

Re-classing is not cheating.

1) Most prep schools mandate that kids repeat a year.
2) Specialty positions like goalie and FO have limited slots available and its basically mandatory to repeat a year. FOGO's get stashed away on prep school teams routinely for PG yr. I'll bet none of the top 2026 goalies that were recruited are on age.
3) Kids get injured and miss a year.
4) Club directors actively encourage the practice.

Do some parents abuse this? Yes. But overall best players wind up on the college field regardless of age.

Re-classing is not cheating.

1) Most prep schools mandate that kids repeat a year.
2) Specialty positions like goalie and FO have limited slots available and its basically mandatory to repeat a year. FOGO's get stashed away on prep school teams routinely for PG yr. I'll bet none of the top 2026 goalies that were recruited are on age.
3) Kids get injured and miss a year.
4) Club directors actively encourage the practice.

Do some parents abuse this? Yes. But overall best players wind up on the college field regardless of age.

Word salad...Holding your child backs works, Reclassing works, PG works, Red shirting works... There is a reason that most players are one of these. Time to live in the real world, not the dream world.

My son isn’t good enough to stand out on age parent.

My son isn’t good enough to stand out on age parent.

My son isn’t good enough to stand out on age parent.

Is this an adult? This parent of a kid playing up is sick of people making excuses. Work harder or get better grades. Stop blaming others to make your kid feel better. Move on.