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They were not at Dowling so you are probably wrong about this weekend also.

2018 is also.

What age group and who is the parent coach. Say if you know. If not perhaps you shouldnt say anything.

Let's say you actually included everyone for this weekend ,with soccer etc. You probably would have gotten at most 16-18 kids ,so 2 teams.I would guarantee you could find at least 2 parent coaches who are willing and able.I would also guess you could ask SS and she could have provided one ie. a Hofstra player. Really not difficult at all.Believe it or not my kid is not one of the left out kids but I would be willing to bet if your kid did not get included you would have some hard feelings.Defend it all you want it is not the right thing to do to your fellow teammates and if you think your kid was selected because the parent / coach/ organizer thinks they are a top player you are probably mistaken. If the parent organizing the group did actually get the 2012-2013 roster already that would be another problem, all around sounds like a bad start to the new teams.

The top gun 2019 team did not play at Dowling last Sunday.

Seriously, a parent putting together a team should not have to ask the entire team if he/she doesn't want to. This is not a TG thing. If a parent chooses to put together a team good for them and they can ask whomever they want to. Stop all the freaking boo-hooing because your kid didn't get a call - my kid didn't either. However I also didn't go out and try to put together a team, therefore I'm not complaining. People need to grow up!

What is the answer here? Is there an off season?

Is there enough to make two teams and the organization steps in and says this is how you should do it.

What happens to the girls that want to play with their friends (some YJ some TG some BB some LBTY) and only needs a few more girls so they reach out to a few friends they made on the club team. It is a tough spot for all.

No actually is does not make more sense because then you are competing against each other for the same players so it makes more sense to work together as if they play for the same team.Sounds like your kid got invited and now you think your something special, you seem to know way to much.Let me guess your select little group was going to call yourselves TG black and now you won't be able to ,I hope you and your new best friend have fun this weekend.

They should have a plan. Hurts when college kids are away now and SS is concerned about her college team. What is the plan for the Fall for these kids.

For the past 2 years this tournament was aweful. All YJ teams beating the heck out of town teams, and the refs were YJ summer coaches. Save your money and enjoy a family weekend.

That is a different situation in my opinion, not an exclusively TG team and certainly not calling themselves TG

You are right, a parent can put together a team of whomever they choose. The one thing you forgot is that this will be terrible for team dynamics. I have seen it happen before. Some kids get calls to play and some kids do not. Some parents are fine with it and some{most} are not. Feelings get hurt and the team starts to break down. You can tell those parents to grow up, but you know they won't. For you to take that view is foolish. Good luck to you and your child who did not get a call. Oh, and by the way, since you don't mind your daughter being left out plan on her being left out a lot more. often.

let me get this correct. there is a tg team. only some girls from this team were invited to play in a tournament, while others were not. oh boy. i would be pissed if my daughter was not invited. if she was invited and i knew some girls were not invited, there is no way she would be playing in that tournament. not cool. you could actually have some girls in the same class at school who are on the same team, but maybe only one got the "special" invite to play. oh yeah, that sounds like a great idea.

The reason for these tournaments are fundraisers for the colleges. You put girls together, put the stick in their hands
and let them have some fun. Scores, who you play, who you beat mean absolutely nothing. Let them be kids.

HOW ARE THEY PICKED? BEST KIDS OR FRIENDS OF THE COACH? IF BEST KIDS.. WHO DECIDES BEST KIDS? IF FRIENDS OF PARENT/COACH DO I NEED TO SUCK UP TO COACH TO GET MY DAUGHTER INVITED?

Your correct Hofstra tourney is terrible YJ does not even have on schedule anymore.

You're not correct. Not a TG event, not a TG team. Group of girls who play for TG, get organized and play in a 7v7 tourney...that's it...pretty simple.

They played as MC19, but brought 2 town kids with them.

Kids live in middle country district but play for different clubs. Isn't that nice they all get along and play for 2 rival clubs?

I agree, tell the kids and their parents who were not picked to stop whining ,practice harder and maybe if your skills improve he will ask you to play next tournament.Every team is always going to have some kids that are more skilled ,these kids should be given the opportunity to improve and play with other kids of equal ability.Yes everyone thinks their own kid is one of the better players and when that kid does not get picked it can be an eye opener.

Seriously why do you keep stating falsehoods.Try to at least get some facts correct.

Agree. People are making this all about drama when there isn't any. It's not a TG event, it's a Hofstra event. ANYONE can put together a team and play. If a parent or player is upset they weren't asked, then put together your own team and go have your own fun.

Furthermore I see nothing wrong with a parent who is coaching, along with his daughter, choose whom to ask to join them whether it's based on skill or friendship or both. Even in kindergarten you don't have to ask the whole class to your birthday party, you invite whom you want to invite and I don't see what's wrong with that. There's not one of us here who hasn't been left out of something at one time or another. It stings, we get over it and move on. That's life and we all have to learn to roll with the punches.

Most of you seem to be missing the point.
Put a team together, invite whoever you want or whoever your daughter wants, who cares why they were chosen or where they came from. Make up some name, get matching shirts and pinneys and go enter tournaments. This is done all the time, some feelings get hurt, but that's life. The issue here is different, if your going to draw players from TG exclusivly, that's fine too. But don't call yourself a TG team and wear the TG uniform unless you invited every member on team. Don't use the rosters not out yet as an excuse, if you can't invite every last girl then its not a TG team and should not be entered as one or dressed like one. You can come on here and try to justify whatever your doing, whatever helps you get to sleep at night, but this concept should be pretty easy to understand for anyone with any moral values.

Are you saying that the other kids on the 2019 black team need to work harder so they can get an invite to play during the fall with a selected few?

You need to suck up to the coach/parent.

Are those the guys that always fight with the refs and other coaches? The should play in the Pilgrim State tourney.

Maybe Top Guns said it was ok and gave permission to wear uniforms - how do you know?? If they did then there is nothing wrong with it.

Agreed, if you want to represent Top Guns then the team should be comprised of these players and coached by a Top Gun representative, you can not have the best of both worlds, this coach shoud represent his team as their coach with "HIS" players! He shouldn't pick and choose in order to have a better chance at winning, because it seems like to this coach, winning is all that matters. The lax community is huge, but in retrospect it is rather small, because everyone knows everyone. This is what "brings home" resentment!

Okay, then you are addressing that it isnt the second part where the only way it may work (without anyone getting hurt or upset) is when a parent grabs their child's friends to play from multiple teams (as long as a majority of a particular team is not included). IMHO unrealistic.

Imagine those posts, is so and so trying to make a new team??? is so and so not happy??? NO they just want their child to play with their friends or different girls they've met along the way.

But what happens when someone grabs a majority from any existing team, to play (be it travel or town) should they let it be known to the entire team what they're doing. (or just understand you slighted and perhaps divided your team and parents... which they probably knew already, since noone was born yesterday)


Get real, those that split up teams without notifications dont care about anyone, they are piking who they feel comfortable with at the time - if you werent picked get over it. (but dont forget it... they are still so young and there will be plenty of more times this will happen.... to them and you).

BUT understand those coaches that notify a team as a whole that the team has been split for a particular game due to roster limits has a heart and probably lost sleep over it. Be thankful they notified you, but dont press them, their reasoning probably doesn't fit your impressions.

Just understand no matter how it is spun (whether it happens to you or someone you know) someone will always be hurt.

People have to make their own decisions ,if the parent feels what he is doing is okay and good for the team then so be it.If the parents of the special select few are good with it and do not feel as if they are leaving kids out then that is okay for them.To the kids who were not picked to play on this special team I would say remember how it feels and keep that in mind when you are picked but others are left out.To the parents who were picked, when your kid is left out remember you had no problem with it when they were included.

Really, I know in my district if you do not invite the entire class you cannot distribute the invites at school. Why? Because it is the right thing to do, it is the moral thing to do.

Sure anyone can make up any team with any player, Just know you may be tearing up a something before it starts.

Yes it is life and it stinks, but why cant we as adults come up with a better way. Isnt that our job as parents!

Absolutely! well said. HS teams do it as well...wear school colors and everything! Roster 10 kids, are we supposed to poll all 1000 HS kids or coach's daughter and her friends???

Powder, what Fall Tournys are TG doing this year??

You said it!

So the guy from MC stacks a team with kids from TG 2019 Black and throws in 2 from his town team so he can say that it's not a true TG team?

If that's what he did, he took a page out of the YJ book

The MC coach, if playing in a tournament as MC19, should use his MC girls as this is what he is representing, if he is entering a tournament as TG black then he should let a TG coach represent a TG team, two different entities......lets be fair, it is not a town team anymore when you are taking girls from all over to represent MC.......creates alot of animosity and it is not the right thing to do

I think evryone who trys out for Topguns should make the black team ( we wouldn"t wnat to hurt anyones feelings), everyone should get a trophy and an Ice cream too!
The older these girls get the more cut throat its gonna get (just like real life)

Please stop the whining already. I believe the MC 2019 group is comprised of many kids that happen to play Top Gun. Does that mean they can not play outside of Top Guns as a town team and invite a few other travel players? The team was far from being "stacked". I believe only half of the MC squad that day was from Top Guns. I'm sure the MC group enjoyed a fun day of lacrosse - good for them!

You people are all mental,the MC 19 team had kids from YJ TG and town team, so what.They were in no way stacked ,matter of fact they were a descent 2019 team but would not have been competitive with TG black or YJ blue, so calm down.Who cares what they call themselves ,maybe they are in to rap music and the mc did not even stand for middle country.

Wow that sounds like a ringing endorsement of the program.What happened to the we are nothing like YJ sounds Koreans more like YJ every day.