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I want to come on here again to explain myself a little further since it seems that our coach and the parent I mentioned in my original post have starting mass posting insults. I never said my daughter was the best on the team, I stated she is one of the stronger players. I did not name any coaches and the reason I went to this website before making a decision was to see if there were other options. I did not say anything bad about the other girls, just that it was not the A level team we were promised when we got personal calls from the program and coaches to convince us to stay on this year. The majority of the girls are great, there are 2-3 girls and accompanying parents who are truly a dark cloud. Those 2-3 are probably being entitled by the fact that they are family friends with the coaches and now are on this website trying to attack me for asking for advice. Just because I am not happy with our families decision to stay on this year doesn't make our family the enemy. As many said following my post 91 isn't the greatest program, and we knew that.

We stayed for my daughters friends and because we felt it was too late to make a switch. When we were promised that we would be playing top 10 teams in the country with this new roster and told we were part of something new and great for the program we made the decision to stay, and that is on us. I now realize that it may have been foolish to think this team could compete with YJ A teams, M&D, NEMS, Skywalkers,etc. It was probably foolish on our part.

Sorry if anyone felt insulted by my original post, but at the end of the day my priority is my kid.

Due to the response of coach and his pal there is zero trust or comfort in him. If I can't find an alternate team for my daughter, I won't ruin her experience further by giving them gasoline for the fire with my daughters name.

There's NOTHING wrong with what he did he didn't say any rude comments like every other parent is on here if they have the right to call him a clown and bash his team he can say call me if you have an issue. Which how is this "addressing the problem" saying false things no less not even saying your name!!

All these sideline daddy coaches should shut their mouth. He played at the collage level and is a varsity assistant coach don't think that says he is some clown.

so are you going to man up and speak to the coaches ? or just continue being a coward.

I heard the same thing , I heard they had some pretty legit kids , obviously it’s word of mouth so you have to wait and see . This parent sounds like maybe his kid doesn’t fit with this team , or possibly is not good enough to compete with this team . I guess rather than bow out gracefully he decided to make weak excuses and bash kids and coaches. Unfortunately everyone will figure who the parent is and the kid will be embarrassed and end leaving anyway . Well done daddy

Ok Mike Hall simmer down. Don't even know you but you posting on here with your name, and now anonymously is a riot. Your ego is showing. To the mom or dad who came on looking for advice, don't let these men bully you into silence. Keep using the forum to ask for advice. You didn't bash anyone. The only people who look ridiculous here are Hall and his single fan club member.

you guys have reading comprehension issues... the poster-in-question never said anything bad about the team or players. All they did was reference it wasnt a good fit, with some bad seeds on the team, and that they felt they were sold a bill of goods with regard to level of play. An anonymous forum seems to be the best place to ask about a situation like this. And unfortunately, i think a lot of people are in the same boat even at other programs (with at least one of those 3 issues, if not a combination of them). My advice is that its never too late to find a better fit for you kid... although that does become more difficult as time goes on.

Based on the response from the alleged coach and his cronies, it sounds like a direct conversation will not go far... and based on the three issues you identified, they cannot be easily remedied in a single season even if the coach is receptive.

The coaches response was “call me”. I think that’s a great response. In other words, let’s talk about your concerns. I don’t think you could ask for anything more than that.

No it wasn't. His response was disbelief. The coach could have just said "you have my contact info, reach out and let's discuss/address your concerns" and leave at that.

I would find the “bad seeds” or favorites very offensive if it was my kid. Looks like someone is trying to find excuses.

Then the OP should not have mentioned 2024 91.

I appreciate you understanding where we are coming from. It wasn’t meant to make my child sound like the best or to insult anyone. I simply wanted advice.

If they had really wanted to attack a specific kid they would have been more specific. I’ve spoken to people on this team who all mention one child in particular who rubs everyone the wrong way.

Oh now it’s one particular kid who rubs everyone the wrong way ?? You just keep moving the goalposts, you can’t keep your story straight anymore.

I didn’t say it was one kid a different poster did…

Outsider (non 24) looking in... I commend the coach for putting his name to the post, I think the parent was only looking for advise and not meaning to bash anyone in particular....
The rest of y'all are bananas.
That is all, Ha

No one spoke to me and I have never seen anything that this person is explaining.

So I have a few questions, the team is already not getting along ? How many practices have they had together? Seems early that kids aren’t getting along already . And parents are already labeling kids as bad seeds and rubbing kids the wrong way ? This is really odd , considering the amount of practice they have had , which I’m assuming aren’t many. Could it be some kids are better than others ? And that doesn’t sit well with mommy and daddy? It sounds like some parents can’t handle the competition. If you can’t handle the competition on a 91 team , then you won’t be stand a chance on higher level club

how can anyone speak to you your anonymous!!

Huh?

This thread is exhausting. Someone please start a new topic.

If you can’t hang at 91 you might as well just quit. Can’t get much lower tier on long island

Why is Hall even reading this thread..?

Why not? If someone bashing people and/or A club… they have every right to respond. Plus, I think they should. It’s their business.

It’s obvious you know him. Lax on ladies replied on here once and you crucified them

I distinctly remember a bandits player moving to our club and her parents on the sidelines telling us how horrific her experiences were with the bandits coaches. The coaches mentioned before are the same are they not?

No, do not know him or the Lax On ladies. Crucified?? I do believe if someone or their club is being bashed on here and they are made aware, I think they should defend themselves. It’s their reputation.

I think coming on to defend yourself makes you look more guilty

To late for that , you already started a dumpster fire

I agree that coach did with how he chose to reply.

So a parent ANONYMOUSLY
* questions the culture of a coach's team
* says the coach confused kids with how poorly he explained a defense (and the parent probably has no clue about the defense)
* says that the coaches favor kids
* says there are kids that are "bad seeds"
* accuses coaches of talking to parents about other kids

And the Coach
* says call me
* says he's surprised to hear this and is in disbelief
AND RESPONDS WITH HIS NAME LIKE A GROWN UP

If you think the coach did anything wrong you are part of the problem.

It proves the coach is an stunad and further proves the original poster's concerns. Plus the fan-boy makes it even more true.

So what’s everyone’s thoughts on the best college recruiting sites? ConnectLax, SportsRecruits, CaptU or other? Thank you in advance

So a parent ANONYMOUSLY
* asks for advice from other parents
* is concerned for their child
* is concerned for the culture of a team
* states that many different kids were confused
* later says they feel uncomofrtrable with these coaches

And the Coach
* says call me with an attitude
* says he's surprised to hear this and is in disbelief not because it isn't true, but because his ego is too big to accept he may not be a lax god
* responds with his team because there is truth to these rumors.

The coaches are the problem, not the parent, not the kids. You have two coaches on that team with inflated egos who are looking to get their kid further in the lacrosse world regardless of who they need to step on to get there. The female coach was a nightmare on Yellow Jackets, and from what the parent posted it seems like she has taken this man downhill with her. If he works alongside her I believe that there is validity in this statement.

only stunad is the fella repeatedly using the word stunad... over and over and.....

There are no other posts that are using the word stunad? Pretty sure multiple people are capable of using the same term.

Can CH get off of here already you're beyond obvious

Connectlax seems to be pretty user friendly

SportsRecruits

Connectlax and sports recruits both good. We had an issue with sports recruits with our account after our club activated an account. Stuff got messed up. They were great to deal with and fixed it fast. One thing I did read at one point is to email directly with coaches, not via the websites. Not sure how true that is though.