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So I ask you? In what other facet of these young men's lives, is it acceptable for an Adult in a position of authority to behave this way towards them? Other than a coach, who would you allow to talk this way to your son? The brothers at his school? The teachers? His boss at a part time job? A stranger? Come on man, it's a GAME... A meaningless game that many kids are trying to play for FUN. It's not D1 football or the NFL. Good lord, put it in perspective. Obviously, the Administration at the school has their collective heads on straight. Is the Coach of the Math team, Debate team, or any other team that might actually get these kids somewhere in life allowed to speak that way? No. Would you allow your wife's Boss to speak to her that way? No. Yet for some reason, you mental patients think it's "OK" for the Football Coach to speak that way to your kid. Again, about a GAME...

So I ask you? In what other facet of these young men's lives, is it acceptable for an Adult in a position of authority to behave this way towards them? Other than a coach, who would you allow to talk this way to your son? The brothers at his school? The teachers? His boss at a part time job? A stranger? Come on man, it's a GAME... A meaningless game that many kids are trying to play for FUN. It's not D1 football or the NFL. Good lord, put it in perspective. Obviously, the Administration at the school has their collective heads on straight. Is the Coach of the Math team, Debate team, or any other team that might actually get these kids somewhere in life allowed to speak that way? No. Would you allow your wife's Boss to speak to her that way? No. Yet for some reason, you mental patients think it's "OK" for the Football Coach to speak that way to your kid. Again, about a GAME...

What world do you live in? In the business world people use expletives all the time. Is it a terminable offense? Obviously not. And if what Pomps did rose to that level, the administration "with its head on "straight"" would have had to remove his teaching responsibilities as well, which they didn't. So now, we are talking about the use of a few curse words to a group of 15 and 16 y/o kids (NOT LITTLE BOYS) whose behavior was not what you would expect after you lost a hard fought game. Maybe they don't deserve to play for Chaminade--but because poor Jimmy's feelings were hurt and Jimmy's parents complained, we're in this situation. It's a disgrace.

The real world numb skull. Maybe you can talk that way to people on the docks?? I assure you, in "my world" that type of behavior form a person in an position of authority is unacceptable. Quite frankly, in 30 years of business I've never been spoken to that way. Further, I've never had to speak that way to my employees that way either. It's called decency, something that a coach at a Catholic School should possess. Guy got caught, behaving in an unacceptable manner, let him take his medicine like a man. The very lesson you seek to teach these "NOT LITTLE KIDS". Dope.

The real world numb skull. Maybe you can talk that way to people on the docks?? I assure you, in "my world" that type of behavior form a person in an position of authority is unacceptable. Quite frankly, in 30 years of business I've never been spoken to that way. Further, I've never had to speak that way to my employees that way either. It's called decency, something that a coach at a Catholic School should possess. Guy got caught, behaving in an unacceptable manner, let him take his medicine like a man. The very lesson you seek to teach these "NOT LITTLE KIDS". Dope.

The real world numb skull. Maybe you can talk that way to people on the docks?? I assure you, in "my world" that type of behavior form a person in an position of authority is unacceptable. Quite frankly, in 30 years of business I've never been spoken to that way. Further, I've never had to speak that way to my employees that way either. It's called decency, something that a coach at a Catholic School should possess. Guy got caught, behaving in an unacceptable manner, let him take his medicine like a man. The very lesson you seek to teach these "NOT LITTLE KIDS". Dope.

No but I am a parent. If your son came over to my house to hang with my son and I was screaming and swearing at your son, I'm guessing you wouldn't be dropping off your son again anytime soon. Everyone has their moments. There is also self control.
I'll ask you this---does it also mean that the coaches that hit their players and throw things at them when they don't perform thats ok too--- because he's a coach and it was in the heat of the moment. Not being a jerk. Asking the question. Where do you draw the line?

Unfortunately it is true. He resigned from Coaching all sports. With todays technology you have to watch yourself at all times. The guy wears his heart on his sleeve and gives 100% all the time. Anyone who has coached for a long time knows every once in a while you get caught up when you feel others don't care as much as you do or don't put in the effort that you do and you express yourself. Every coach has yelled screamed at a player especially if you have coached for 30 years. He didn't single out one kid he was addressing the team as a whole which we have all done from time to time. Some kid decided to record that moment and turn it over to school officials. Not saying what he did was right but 30 years of helping kids become better people and because of an outburst right after a game he is forced to resign. The kid that taped it was probably one of the ones that he was talking about and doesnt care and was more concerned with his phone. I hope he is happy at the outcome.

I think many of us are getting off the track here. I do not know Pomponio personally but I know who he is and I know plenty of kids who have played for him. The vast majority are supporting him.
In the grand scheme of things, I'm not sure his anger was based in the fact that they lost a game. It seems to me that it was more rooted in that the kids didn't seem to care about what just happened. A coach works hard all week to prepare kids to compete and it's not unfair to expect the players to care as much as the coach. The least they could do is show some respect for the effort the coach has put into their preparation and development. Could he have chosen his words more carefully? Sure, but sometimes harsh words are the only way to get the message across. We now live in a world where authority figures receive very little in the way of respect. Are we really helping our kids when we jump in and get every coach, teacher, etc. that we don't like removed? Many of us older people on this site played ball when we were young and I am sure we all have stories about some of the crazy coaches we played for. Yes, there were some that were over the top, but they played a huge role in the development of their players and were respected. Ultimately, we knew they cared about us as people, as well as players. This message of caring may not be delivered in every conversation, but over a season or career a player will have little doubt about his/her coach. We have taken a snapshot of a distinguished career and used it to define this man. That's unfair and anyone who has competed in sports knows that there are times when the heat of the moment gets the best of us.
What have we taught this group of boys, that they don't have to be accountable for their actions or behavior? Is that really where we are going? Take a step back and give this some thought the next time a kid shows no respect to a teacher or police officer. Parents need to sit back once in a while and let kids take their lumps. It's a big part of growing up.

The real world numb skull. Maybe you can talk that way to people on the docks?? I assure you, in "my world" that type of behavior form a person in an position of authority is unacceptable. Quite frankly, in 30 years of business I've never been spoken to that way. Further, I've never had to speak that way to my employees that way either. It's called decency, something that a coach at a Catholic School should possess. Guy got caught, behaving in an unacceptable manner, let him take his medicine like a man. The very lesson you seek to teach these "NOT LITTLE KIDS". Dope.

So I ask you? In what other facet of these young men's lives, is it acceptable for an Adult in a position of authority to behave this way towards them? Other than a coach, who would you allow to talk this way to your son? The brothers at his school? The teachers? His boss at a part time job? A stranger? Come on man, it's a GAME... A meaningless game that many kids are trying to play for FUN. It's not D1 football or the NFL. Good lord, put it in perspective. Obviously, the Administration at the school has their collective heads on straight. Is the Coach of the Math team, Debate team, or any other team that might actually get these kids somewhere in life allowed to speak that way? No. Would you allow your wife's Boss to speak to her that way? No. Yet for some reason, you mental patients think it's "OK" for the Football Coach to speak that way to your kid. Again, about a GAME...

no one said it was ok. who's really the mental patient? you are not comprehending. where does the kids behavior become relevant because more and more we see kids getting away with disrespectful behavior and it's largely due to parents letting them get away with it. the teachers, coaches, brothers, whoever don't have a prayer if the parents condone bad behavior. and it's condoned if they run to school for every little thing instead of teaching them how to deal with life. we just taught these kids to entrap an adult in a sneaky illegal way so they can get away with their behavior. great lesson. the coaches record speaks for itself. times have changed since he started. kids are no longer accountable for their actions and they all get a trophy. too bad the parents aren't going to be able to call their potential employer and complain they didn't get the job. what will Johnny do then? wake up!

Ahh the person who associates the business world with the sports world= no clue about sports. I'm sorry to say but you're the problem with sports in this day and age. Coaching young men sometimes takes tough love. You can't always coddle them and hold their hand. Let someone coach your kids and be tough on them so that they can face real world problems. You cant aleays be there to protect them. I have played professional sports and have worked in big corporate America and vulgar language is constantly used I don't know what company or where you work maybe they don't do it in front of you because you're so sensitive to it but the fact of the matter is in big business America there is vulgar language used. The pusification/demasculization is rediculous. I think a lot of this crap comes from parents who never played a sport. The fields of play were one place where trash talk could occur, coaches yelled expletives to get you going. These are 15 to 16 year old boys who not in the presence of their parents have the mouths of sailors. Let coaches coach and stop being helicopter parents.

The mental patient is you! The ADULT should have had more composure. He should be accountable for his actions. Respect is earned. When someone in a position of authority over steps his bounds it's wrong. He verbally abused those kids because he could. He said what he said because he knew not one kid was in a position to defend themselves. That's what PUNKS do. That's not toughness. Most of all, he said what he said because he thought he wouldn't get caught! The kid who taped him is a hero. At least he had the courage of his convictions.

Respect is earned , and he has earned it with thousands of young men over the last 35 years. This kid ran to mommy. Hardly a hero!

All this chatter and I haven't heard ONE person with first hand information or interaction with this man say a negative word about him. Not ONE ex student say, it's about time. Just the opposite. Thousands standing up and telling their stories of the their time with him and what an influence he has had in their life. A lot of people objecting on principal , but no one has said a word negatively about him.

The mental patient is you! The ADULT should have had more composure. He should be accountable for his actions. Respect is earned. When someone in a position of authority over steps his bounds it's wrong. He verbally abused those kids because he could. He said what he said because he knew not one kid was in a position to defend themselves. That's what PUNKS do. That's not toughness. Most of all, he said what he said because he thought he wouldn't get caught! The kid who taped him is a hero. At least he had the courage of his convictions.

Yeah, get in there and bust their f%$*ing head open kid.. Down, set...
You my friend have taken one too many hits to the head. Your bias as it relates to your experience as a coach is evident. As for me, I played all kinds of sports, was raised by a WWII Marine, and was a Bouncer all through College. I'm extremely familiar with toughness and a masculine environment. As for the tough love, we'll keep that in the home. No need for some bone head wanna be/never was to dish that out. You just stick to the X's and O's, Coach.

Chaminade has just given all control over to the parents. Squeaky wheel gets the most oil.

Ok your right. I guess your reading comprehension is off. Never said anything in my comment about coaching. No one said anything about bashing heads. Do you even know what he said. I have seen the video and it was not bad at all. Kids were horsing around on the bus after a loss. Guess your ok with the everyone getting participation trophies and even making sure everyone gets equal playing time in high school. Sounds like you played sports but probably didn't do well at them so this is ok with you. Also being a juice head bouncer isn't something to be proud of. You probably worked in one or two of the clubs I ran while I was in college. So odds are you worked for me. Lol. This explains a lot about your reading comprehension.

A good man was let go for caring about losing and the way the boys were acting after a loss. Yes he raised his voice said a few bad words but nothing to warrant being fired as a coach.

We DEMAND second chances for our "perfect" children, but a proven an dedicated educator & coach mis-steps and he's shown the door?!

I don't have to wonder why kids these days have such an inflated sense of entitlement. Great job Chaminade PARENT. You just tarnished a great coach and wrecked your sons 4 years at a great school. Because if you don't think the KIDS will rally around this coach, you are sorely mistaken.

So, having read through most of these comments, I have one question that should be obvious to any reasonable human being: why do so many people have such strong opinions about this *without having seen the video*? Isn't that just patently irrational?

I just heard this horrible news today. I am truly saddened. This decision has hurt the young men who will never get the Pomps experience. A guy that every kid connected with. He is straight up, honest, approachable, encouraging, passionate about the game, real guy, loved the sports he coached, loved the kids he coached. Awesome man who smiled cause he was happy doing what he did. How unfortunate that the future Chaminade boys are unknowingly being punished by not having access to a mentor like Pomps.

I guarantee he wasn't upset about losing. I bet he was pissed about the disregard for the discipline and hard work that goes into building a team, the lack of respect for your team and coaches by not caring, the individual selfishness vs the pride of family / team. I played for that man. I know how he's wired. I now coach my own children with the same passion and love and demand for "give it your best... no excuse" mentality that Pomps brought to work and taught everyday.

What words could he have possibly said that demanded such a punishment?? The passion, although maybe too much at that moment, IS the lesson to those young men. Teach them to be passionate, dedicated, driven to excellence, hard working, empowered, and focused. Losing is NOT okay. Compete to Win!! Don't be so cavalier about losing.

Playing for Pomps was a great time in my life and for so many guys I'm still friends with 27 years later. Chaminade is an amazing place. It breeds young men who are hungry to be great in many ways...in classrooms, on the fields, with your family. We left there ready, driven and hungry. Nothing was handed to us.

Chaminade got this one wrong. It is a worse place without Pomps on the field. That guy came to school everyday to teach so he could get out on that field in the afternoon. He loves those kids, they love him and the next generation will not know him because of this incident. Its wrong and unjust.