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If you are a yellow jacket blue parent with a daughter on the bottom half of the roster, you need to listen to this. The coaches and organization have a standard reply to all players if their parents are complaining. They will tell you that the time to win is now. That college coaches will not come to the sidelines to watch the team if they are not winning every game. They will tell you that even though your daughter is not playing she's getting great benefit from having the yellow jacket blue name. And that may be true for some. But at the same time it maybe destroying your daughters confidence and love of the game. This was the situation we were in and we decided to try and stick it out. For us that was the wrong decision. At that time for her the sport was about having fun. But how can you have fun when you're not seeing the field. By the end of the year, it became a job to her. It was then that we finally decided to look for another place for her to play. She decided to go to what many consider to be a much lesser club. And it turned out to be the greatest thing she ever did. We just wish she did it earlier. And guess what she got recruited to a D1 school. We just had to do a little bit more legwork. Needless to say we are going about it differently with our younger daughter. I'm not saying that this situation doesn't work for some. It just definitely didn't work for us. At 12 years old all my daughter wanted to do was play.

And before somebody calls me a yellow jacket hater, that is not the truth. When I asked them for the truth they gave it to me. They didn't string me on. We just decided to make our own decisions for what we felt was best for our daughter. And sitting on the sidelines watching other girls play meaningful minutes was not what was right for us as a family. Good luck to everyone going forward.

Playing YJ 2019 Mitchell at National Draw in a few weeks. Which team is that for you guys? Thanks.

Pay your $500 recruiting fee and she will mention your name to a college coach when an inquiry is made. Don't pay it, and she wont remember your kids name.

As good as YJ 2018 Rose is, why go to maryland and set yourself up with 4 patsies? Complete waste of time when the game is over in 10 minutes. What could the girls get out of this weekend?

Wow, what happened to the mighty 2021 yellowjacket team. That's all we read about

M&D parent here. The YJ 2021 team is outstanding and up until this weekend they have been the best team we have played in this age group. Beach lax is a U13 tournament and therefore some very high level rec teams from Maryland were in this tournament and were able to field teams that included club players from the 2020 age group. Dolphins and API fielded very good teams and Catonsville fielded an elite team with players mostly from the 2020 age level from some very good clubs in Maryland.

So, YJ and M&D ran into some great competition.

YJ 2021 has nothing to be ashamed of. They are a very strong team and obviously one of the very top teams at the 2021 age level.

How did 2019 Blue do?

Maybe its because it's not my first daughetr and I'm older now, but early in this summer travel season, the drive seemed longer this weekend, the games seemed shorter and the roster seemed bigger. Oh and the weather wasn't great.

None are positive

My youngest daughter is scheduled to play at Savitch field does anybody know if thats at Cherokee High School . Thanks in advance

No. A different venue

Well said
great perspective and post

Great post. Second time around here too and the perspective definitely changes. For my oldest, the joy of the weekend came out of competing and hoping her team beat the other teams and watching her play and grow. And that's fine. But what we learn is that ultimately, that success (or lack thereof) is really not all that important and that what is sustainable is what they do with their talents on (but mostly off) the field. In the end, I could not possibly be happier than I am about my oldest daughter's outcome.

But all that being said, my favorite part of this weekend was not winning or making a great play etc. (and sure, those were cool things) but instead it was walking on the boardwalk in OC and handing my kid a $20 bill and telling her she could go on a bunch of rides. Honestly, what I am going to remember most about this past weekend is not the short fields, the rainy weather, the short games, the drunk parents late on Saturday night, but what I am going to remember is having fun with my kid and seeing her be a little girl and a fierce competitor all on the same weekend.

It goes fast. Enjoy it!

How is it possible that as the girls get older they play a less structured game? My daughter is on a 2017 team, and since they hit recruitment age, it has become the most selfish style of play I've ever witnessed. Everyone is out for themselves and the team be damned. It's a shame. You would think the coaches would discourage this but it actually seems as if they really don't care as long as they get the W.

Oh no!! I was hoping it would improve as they got older!

AHHHH. Finally! A parent speaks of a memorable moment with their daughter and not any LAX smack. That memory of watching her play some boardwalk games with a smile is far more important then a LAX game!