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[quote=Anonymous]Was that wantagh's JV this weekend, because that definitely didn't resemble wantagh's varsity from years past.

A couple of parents who think their girls are the bomb handpicked the "top" varsity players to play and apparently it didn't work out as planned. Humble pie.

Top players? My god their in trouble

can this really be called The indoor "National Championship"
if all the top teams weren't there?

It's funny...I looked at the games his past weekend and besides GC who went to the final there looks like a lot of LI teams that went 1 - 2. Maybe they sent their JV as well??

The real sad part is you are talking about young girls...so pathetic. If you seem to know who these parents are who coached, why don't you reach out to them. With the coaching vacancy just filled at Wantagh, it sounds like these parents at least tried to get the girls going for the upcoming season. Again, what have you done?

[quote=Anonymous]Was that wantagh's JV this weekend, because that definitely didn't resemble wantagh's varsity from years past.

A couple of parents who think their girls are the bomb handpicked the "top" varsity players to play and apparently it didn't work out as planned. Humble pie.

I'm the parent that picked the team, you know who i am, i'll be at the meeting tomorrow night. You have my number, we can meet before or after the meeting to discuss the bashing of my wantagh varsity girls.

I'm the parent that picked the team, you know who i am, i'll be at the meeting tomorrow night. You have my number, we can meet before or after the meeting to discuss the bashing of my wantagh varsity girls.

Where is Orange Crush from?

haha....you are that small little snowflake man.......I can send my wife to take of you

They tried to get "the girls going" or their girls going....don't pump your chest about doing it for your town, you did it for your daughters only...how'd that work out for ya?!! At least GC does it to make the town better not just a select group of girls.

I'm the parent that picked the team, you know who i am, i'll be at the meeting tomorrow night. You have my number, we can meet before or after the meeting to discuss the bashing of my wantagh varsity girls.

It's funny...I looked at the games his past weekend and besides GC who went to the final there looks like a lot of LI teams that went 1 - 2. Maybe they sent their JV as well??

The real sad part is you are talking about young girls...so pathetic. If you seem to know who these parents are who coached, why don't you reach out to them. With the coaching vacancy just filled at Wantagh, it sounds like these parents at least tried to get the girls going for the upcoming season. Again, what have you done?

Not sure about a lot of the LI teams going 1-2. It looks like Middle Country, SWR, and CSH all went 2-1

"My Wantagh varsity girls" ??? There in lies the problem with high school sports and lacrosse. What is the story with last years Wantagh coach? Was she run out of town?

No she actually got a teaching job at Plainedge and believe she is going to be an assistant lax coach at the their HS

Wrong the Parents that gave their time didn't "care" about those girls. He picked and chose who he wanted to from his "inner circle". He never gave all of the girls the option to play over the weekend - girls who were on the varsity team the prior year. Instead he took an 8th grader who he's friends with the family. And then he short changed those girls because there wasn't enough players. You (and yes we know who you are) did a disservice to these girls (that other towns are bashing as no talent) when they are a talented group and aren't selfish players. They haven't had a chance to prove themselves because of prior pathetic coaching. And shame on the Athletic Director who is useless for allowing it. Hopefully this new coach has the balls to tell you parents to sit down and shut up and let him coach.

Wrong the Parents that gave their time didn't "care" about those girls. He picked and chose who he wanted to from his "inner circle". He never gave all of the girls the option to play over the weekend - girls who were on the varsity team the prior year. Instead he took an 8th grader who he's friends with the family. And then he short changed those girls because there wasn't enough players. You (and yes we know who you are) did a disservice to these girls (that other towns are bashing as no talent) when they are a talented group and aren't selfish players. They haven't had a chance to prove themselves because of prior pathetic coaching. And shame on the Athletic Director who is useless for allowing it. Hopefully this new coach has the balls to tell you parents to sit down and shut up and let him coach.

It happens a lot. It's the biggest decision they must make in their life up to that point. Unfortunately they are making these decisions way to young with the early recruitment. Definitely no guarantees. Thanks for that story and I'm sure she'll be fine. This story will get you thinking too.
http://uslaxmagazine.com/high_schoo...r_student_how_curtis_zappala_walked_away

You're welcome. I've been involved with the game for a long time, and my kids situation is not unique. But, there are lots of people who don't want to think it will be their kid. I didn't think it would be my kid. She was 1st team all-county on two different lists. Great/very good player. But, somewhere along the way her feelings about the school she chose changed. Only she knows what it is. And yes, I think she will be fine, at school and on the field. Now, just gotta find the next place. This time she'll probably make a better choice for her.

Here's just a little info on the whole early recruiting process.
My 2016 daughter was fairly highly recruited: 8 schools from Hofstra in the north to University of Florida in the south. She committed to a D1 during the summer after sophomore year. She was very excited about her choice and so were we. She moved into school in early September last year and all was going well...fall ball, school, etc. Played very well and started some of the games during fall. All of a sudden,yesterday she informs me that she does not want to go back. I asked how long she's felt this way and she said since she moved. Wow! So, she called her coach yesterday and went and visited with her today. The coach told her that she was a big part of the teams upcoming season and hated to lose her. They talked for several hours, and some of the upper classmen talked to her, all to no avail. In the end she chose to leave and signed her release paperwork. Now she's on her way back home. Here's what I thought: That my daughter would never do this. She's very responsible, great student, takes care of her business, works hard, etc. She loves working out and didn't think the practices were too hard. She ran her mile run test in 6:15. She has lots of friends and got along with her room mate very well. But, ultimately, she didn't "feel right" at the school. Just "off". She's going to go the local community college, which is always highly ranked, and play there and hopefully continue at another 4-year school that is more for her. Her former team treated her wonderfully, she loved the coaches, liked the school. It just didn't work. So, my advice to any parents and players is to choose your school wisely. Talk about all of the negatives as much as the positives. Talk about the "what ifs". And, most of all communicate a lot. Good luck to all going through the process now. It can be exciting, pressure packed and fun all at the same time. And, do not discount a D2 or D3 school. It's not all about D1. Good Luck to all.

Here's just a little info on the whole early recruiting process.
My 2016 daughter was fairly highly recruited: 8 schools from Hofstra in the north to University of Florida in the south. She committed to a D1 during the summer after sophomore year. She was very excited about her choice and so were we. She moved into school in early September last year and all was going well...fall ball, school, etc. Played very well and started some of the games during fall. All of a sudden,yesterday she informs me that she does not want to go back. I asked how long she's felt this way and she said since she moved. Wow! So, she called her coach yesterday and went and visited with her today. The coach told her that she was a big part of the teams upcoming season and hated to lose her. They talked for several hours, and some of the upper classmen talked to her, all to no avail. In the end she chose to leave and signed her release paperwork. Now she's on her way back home. Here's what I thought: That my daughter would never do this. She's very responsible, great student, takes care of her business, works hard, etc. She loves working out and didn't think the practices were too hard. She ran her mile run test in 6:15. She has lots of friends and got along with her room mate very well. But, ultimately, she didn't "feel right" at the school. Just "off". She's going to go the local community college, which is always highly ranked, and play there and hopefully continue at another 4-year school that is more for her. Her former team treated her wonderfully, she loved the coaches, liked the school. It just didn't work. So, my advice to any parents and players is to choose your school wisely. Talk about all of the negatives as much as the positives. Talk about the "what ifs". And, most of all communicate a lot. Good luck to all going through the process now. It can be exciting, pressure packed and fun all at the same time. And, do not discount a D2 or D3 school. It's not all about D1. Good Luck to all.

That is great advice! Your daughter is not the only one! I have a son in a similar situation with basically the same story. Top recruit, starting on a top D1 program, but just isn't happy. People need to be careful what they wish for!

That is great advice! Your daughter is not the only one! I have a son in a similar situation with basically the same story. Top recruit, starting on a top D1 program, but just isn't happy. People need to be careful what they wish for!

Fortunately or unfortunately, depending what side you're on, until you sign that paper,you can always decommit. It happens more today than ever because of early commits. If she were to kill it this year and next you'd be surprised to see how many schools would try to contact her and "find " money to make it happen. Times have changed, and this early recruiting goes both ways. At that point the only thing that matters is your daughter and her future. The other thing is, the way this business is today you're lucky if the Head Coach is still there 3 or 4 years from now.

8th and 9th grade girls haven't taken a regents or an SAT yet. Most of the early commits we know aren't great students either. They are picking schools without knowing what they want to study in school. I guess when they get closer they will see what majors the school offers. I think its safe to say any 8th grader that picks a college is picking the college for lacrosse reasons *** but most they are picking some big name good schools that they wouldn't haven't gotten in to without lax so I guess that's the point right??.

I am watching many of the very early commits from the last few years get bypassed by others on their own team. That is a risk and fear of Coaches going all in on girls in 8th or used to be 9th grade. Could it be the girls lose the drive and focus in the later HS years that are seemingly meaningless once they commit? Or some just peaked early? The girls at the current recruiting age, look at a group at the same playing level, some are completely maxed out on potential, some are just getting going. How are the coaches to know? Some studs remain studs and stay ahead, some seem to be flatlining.