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That's interesting about the coaching. Didn't know that. Have a 7th grader but live in Suffolk. Maybe have to rethink that commute.

How about SJB? New coach. Seems connected to college coaches. Just a thought. Aren't we all sick of this pre-determined CHSAA Championship game?

Love tap? It was a full out hit while yelling at him to "shut the f**k up". Never okay to put your hands on a kid. Totally unacceptable.

Not a great guy! Verbally brow beats the kids same personalty as the Kellenberg coach. Has a bad reputation with his LI Rebels. Took money for tournaments and would not give it back when team folded? Had to chase him to get it back.

It was a love tap...cut it out. Coaches do that a lot and kids do not mind at all. Neither should the parents.

Coach should be disciplined. NEVER put your hands on a kid.

A High School lacrosse team will not be "gassed" because they play a hard schedule. They play about 2x per week on average. Come on, this is ridiculous.

Super leagues will not affect who wins Sections and goes to the State tournament. In the playoffs, the teams will play according to their enrollment (A, B, C), just like they do now. The best teams will still win, and will not be tired for a game against Yorktown simply because they played Ward Melville, et al in April. The Super League will simply allow for better games during the regular season. In fact, it will improve a LI teams chances of doing well at States simply because they will have more experience playing against the type of teams they will need to beat.

The only material difference may be that a team that compiles a top record in a non-super league may take a playoff spot away from a team at or near the bottom of the super league. So what - such team wasn't going to win states anyway.

Love tap? It was a full out hit while yelling at him to "shut the f**k up". Never okay to put your hands on a kid. Totally unacceptable.

Just so I have this right, you're going allow an anonymous poster's comments, which you have no idea if they have merit, influence your family's decision on where your son should attend HS.

Retread his comment, then think about what he said......do you think he may have a problem with the coach because his kid doesn't play? Do you really think the admissions at Kellenberg are impacted by their lacrosse coaching staff? Is he spending too much on athletic talent? Lax balls? Are their uniforms too nice? How in God's name do you tie the lacrosse coach to the schools finances?

It reads like that guy has listened to too many Donald Trump speeches.

It was a love tap...cut it out. Coaches do that a lot and kids do not mind at all. Neither should the parents.

Oh my, just checked it out.

Not that I am against or for it but if you thought the "little" forearm from Princeton coach was too much you wont like this. (yes a bit different because opposing team)

Wouldn't call it a punch but would call it good either. If you call it a "love tap"... yeah, like my dad loves me but if I talked back to him he slapped me one. and no coaches don't do that anymore.

Love tap? It was a full out hit while yelling at him to "shut the f**k up". Never okay to put your hands on a kid. Totally unacceptable.

Commack FO/Middie out for that game. WW should have it easy.

The coach is terrible. Get him outta there and maybe more kids would go there and it would help the school's finances. Nobody want's to play for him. Nasty guy. By having him there it's actually hurting the school's finances too.

Oh my, just checked it out.

Not that I am against or for it but if you thought the "little" forearm from Princeton coach was too much you wont like this. (yes a bit different because opposing team)

Wouldn't call it a punch but would call it good either. If you call it a "love tap"... yeah, like my dad loves me but if I talked back to him he slapped me one. and no coaches don't do that anymore.

If I had a nickel for every time my H.S football coach hit me up side the helmet or grabbed my face mask to make sure I understood him I would have about $2.00. The funny thing is it isn't the boys who complain but the wussy helicopter parents.
It amazes me that we had 19 yr. old platoon leaders during WW 2, guys who never left their town before going overseas. We baby the crap out of these kids, but they can take it if you let them. The problem is the parents, let your boys grow up and be men. They will be fine. The umbilical cord was cut a long time ago.

I agree, a lot of truth to what you say. "real life" will be a challenge for the kids without a trust fund!

Let's hope the kid and his parents give their OK on this, there is more than enough woosification of these kids already. It was nothing extraordinary except it was on TV. No harm/ no foul. A love tap, nothing more.

Not a great guy! brow beats the kids same personalty as the Kellenberg coach. Has a bad reputation with his LI Rebels. Took money for tournaments and would not give it back when team folded? Had to chase him to get it back.

I have, I coached and I am passionate and loud. I've called out players, I grabbed at many a cage to get a players attention but never ever smacked them in anger upside their head. Wanted to but never did. I coached back in the 90's (when i was young) to very privileged boys. Their parents didn't care so much about the yelling, if it got to much they would have a conversation with me and we were usually on the same page at the end of the conversation (on my side - and that kid was set straight for at least a few weeks). With me it was not out of anger but tutelage and understanding timing, priorities and respect - life lessons.

I was fortunate (or unfortunately) to be put into an environment where a coach did hit a player upside the head. The dad said one thing to the Ad coach and staff...

"...Yell at him all you want, make him run or take time away... you are the coach, but, and let me make this clear... only I can put my hands on my son. Trust me I will take care of it... if it warrants, but you hit my kid and I will take care of you first pointing at the AD then you pointing at the coach. (All situations are different but all the rest of us could do was shake our head and think, the dad is right).


I am now a dad and been around the block. I have learned you don't always need to stay in a situation, if it is not to your liking or standards, just leave. No one needs to be a martyr. Some of our parents stayed in their jobs many miserable as could be, but they were told stay you don't leave. Why, because that was how things were done. Not anymore, life and things change. I believe their is a fine line of this woosification but I also believe we need to use common sense.


As far as the "thank you", just like everything in life, I too say Thank you to the coach, but only when deserved. Thank you's are not to be thrown around lightly. You can tell when a coach is doing it for the love of the game or the pay check. I have been disgusted by some of the coaching and development ive seen. AD's are no better, their lack of "want" to do the right thing and their lack of "passion" to get better has been eye opening. So "thank you's" are only said when deserved. Just like "Good Job", those seem to be handed out like candy, does a player who didn't play in a game get a "good job", NO!

Now the above is just that a situation lapse in a moment in time. This seemed to be a mistake in a heated moment. I am also for forgiveness since we all have our moments (as long as they are few and far between).

WHERE' S ALL THE CATHOLIC BASHERS?
Cham over Massapequa
St A's over Syosset

Chaminade was given that game. Offiial threw a flag that DOES NOT get thrown in OT in a game of that caliber.

WHERE' S ALL THE CATHOLIC BASHERS?
Cham over Massapequa
St A's over Syosset

Chaminade was given that game. Offiial threw a flag that DOES NOT get thrown in OT in a game of that caliber.