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parents ruining sports for kids, and at the same time ruining their kids.

horrible but probably true, in that there is no real youth sports anymore. It is a business's and parents should be... Better be involved.

The rec league is fine as long as it is treated as such. But we aren't talking rec league. So many times they say you probably never played a sport. I think that is so false, I think many of us did and know when we need to stay involved and when to back off.

None of this is new, and what was once old is new again. Be parents, what that's means is different to each one of us. But the HS thing doesn't last long for your children, you learn a lot if you have 3 or 4 go through, you can apply what you learned, it is a lot harder if you have 1 or 2 and the times flies by before I you realize it.

Protect your house first...

some clarity on the Syo issue -

while there has been a tremendous amount of support for the coach and a vocal minority of people with complaints (some valid and some not so much) the coach was repeatedly given the support of the administration about "coaching style and playing time issues" the final straw that led to this was an incident off the field that was reported to the school by another employee of the school district and not a parent of a player on the team (although after the situation became public I believe other parents did come forward and complained).

constant parent complaints might have been a contributing factor but they were not why this happened.

Personally I think the Board and the Superintendent spend way to much time on this one team and one coach when they have to spend so much time on real issues like common core and budgets, it seems like a stronger AD could have prevented a lot of the parent complaints and by giving meeting to all these parents they gave them a sense of power that maybe in the long run hurts the program.

God speed to the next coach that has to deal with us folks, unless he can figure out how to play 35 kids at one time he will be crucified on here and in the AD's office the morning after the first game. Imagine what the parents would be like if Syo was a losing team????

JC was and will continue to be a good coach and has "helped" build a very good program but regardless of who takes over the varsity the youth program and more importantly all the travel programs will continue to feed the HS with very well trained lacrosse players.

Good luck coach

There will be a board of education meeting this Monday, July 11th at South Woods middle school at 8:00 PM. It is a community forum where anyone can speak their mind. I will be there with my son to plead our case for coach Calabria to remain as coach. If you can attend to help our cause, please be there by 7:45

I judge a coach with the amount of talent compared to record.
JC was decent coach- not great he had a lot more talent than most teams think he should have won state in the last runs.

Coaching style- horrible- it is one thing to yell at the refs and own teammates but to belittle opposing players is un-acceptable.

He made his own bed now he has to sleep in it.

When your a coach you need to have control of your emotions

Thanks for the insight--wonder who that "other high school employee" could have been. And what they had to gain.

You sure about that not a parent part?

T heodore R oosevelt is rolling over in his grave right now over all this nonsense.

Typical case of Board covering their butts and taking the easy way out.

The situation will only get worse as the really bullying is occurring by a few selfish parents who will undoubtedly be emboldened by there influence over the Board, likely holding a potential frivolous lawsuit over the Board's head.

Well once the High school's lacrosse program goes down the drain the only thing Syosset will be known for will be idiot parents and a second rate school district.

Well done!

Who is taking the head job ? New coach from Massapequa ?

The Board will be calling in the starting lineup and line changes this season.

coach of another varsity team with no connection to the lax team or ax to grind that I know of

I know that it is hard for people on BOTC to believe because this is a lacrosse site not an education site but the board really does not give a poop about lacrosse or who coaches it, or any other sport for that matter. They became involved because the district felt this incident warranted the boards involvement - nothing to do with playing time or coaching style or parent complaints this was about a simple single off field error in judgment that the administration and board felt was serious enough (I DO NOT FEEL IT WAS SERIOUS ENOUGH) to not renew his contract going forward

For which he was suspended pending an investigation and reinstated at it's conclusion. Can't have it both ways. They cleared him then to resume coaching, so they look pretty incompetent, or currupt, "unclearing" him now.

Is Rooney busy nowadays?

They already have their Parent Advisory Board in place to help out the new guy.

All I got to say is Massapequa better not hire that traitor back.
There will be a revolt in Massapequa if they hire him back to coach pequa.

I doubt it being he is best friends with JC

Busy stirring the pot!

lol so childish

hes going to sachem east

JC has NOT ever/ NEVER been associated with MHS

Grow up, there would be no revolt, the man is a gentlemen.

They are talking about his assistant

Ehh his assistant was from Massapequa.

I went to one of the rival schools mentioned. To call Syosset a second rate school district qualifies you as an imbecile. The lax team will remain good for a while, but the changing demographics will be a factor in the future.

How would you know what went on on the sidelines? Belittling the opposing players...not so! I've witnessed opposing coaches do horrible gestures to our players after games. I feel sorry for the person who posted this BS. JC did a lot with the talent that he had. His smartness and coaching strategy enabled our team to reach the County Championship game for years

your team should have made states with that kind of talent every year. if you like your kid going home in his underwear as a punishment for losing and then have him lie to get coach reinstated then you need professional help.

wasn't punishment but it was a mistake, I didn't care nor have i heard any of the other parents on the team that I have spoken cared, thank goodness he didn't keep his e-mails on a private server..... oh wait, that is actually something important that people should and do care about

They have a term for people like you. It starts with a P and ends wth a Y.

How do you know any of the kids lied? Were you there in the room with them? And if your son plans on playing lax in college...Good Luck! Your 4 years are going to be miserable. Lastly, I've seen girls change their clothes (yes, taking their shirts off wearing sports bras) and football players leaving the building in their compression shorts. Do their parents need professional help? I think not

At least someone is acknowledging that there are talented players in Syosset...

Maybe if the school actually cared about and supported the program Syo would win states one year... Too much energy spent trying to crush the program.

It's easy to see that many parents of starters are writing their Syo defense of a coach who has shamelessly belittled and ridiculed his players over the course of many years. As a parent of a lacrosse alumni, I couldn't wait to leave (neither could my son). It is a shame that a sport that my son loved was robbed from him by this man. He lies, he deflates, chastises, and demoralizes even his best players. What is sad is that the parents of those boys that feel the brunt of his narcissism and tirades do not find it as easy to get up to a podium to voice their mistrust of JC. They and their boys know what it will mean for them-blacklisted, banished from play time, made fun of, etc. As all of you proponents suckle the teet of JC and his alleged promise of recruitment help, etc, etc. know there is an equal amount of us who will call and write to the board and administration praising them on this long awaited decision.

Ok... I will see you on Monday Night at the Board Meeting...

If u feel so strong in your convictions you should man up and do it in person , not hiding behind an aninomous post.

Nice that you feel it is appropriate to engage in aninomous character assassination! You are a real man!

I hope ur son fleeced a bit of character from JC while he was on the team.. He certainly could not have learned it from a coward like you.

"T-e-a-t"

I am a woman as are you I see.

"Aninomous"? LMAO

Just saying

I stand corrected

Nice try but not even close. 18 out of 22 kids from the same club being selected by the guy that runs that club has nothing to do with complaining parents. Keep telling yourself the whole process wasnt a farce eventually you might even believe it.