According to bestcolleges.com the best colleges for LGBT:
University Of Pennsylvania Ithaca College Indiana University Bloomington University Of Washington Tufts University University Of Massachusetts Amherst San Diego State University Princeton University Penn State University University of Oregon
According to collegechoice.net the Top 10 are:
PRINCETON UNIVERSITY MIT UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN EAU CLAIRE UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA UCLA UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN CORNELL UNIVERSITY HARVEY MUDD COLLEGE OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY JOHNS HOPKINS UNIVERSITY
I don't see Wesleyan anywhere in the top 25 on both these websites. I do however see some prominent D1 lacrosse programs...