According to bestcolleges.com the best colleges for LGBT:

University Of Pennsylvania
Ithaca College
Indiana University Bloomington
University Of Washington
Tufts University
University Of Massachusetts Amherst
San Diego State University
Princeton University
Penn State University
University of Oregon

According to collegechoice.net the Top 10 are:

PRINCETON UNIVERSITY
MIT
UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN EAU CLAIRE
UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA
UCLA
UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN
CORNELL UNIVERSITY
HARVEY MUDD COLLEGE
OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY
JOHNS HOPKINS UNIVERSITY

I don't see Wesleyan anywhere in the top 25 on both these websites. I do however see some prominent D1 lacrosse programs...